Tips and Incidentals

Tips and Incidentals

January 02, 20234 min read

Wedding Tips and Incidentals: The Hidden Costs Every Couple Must Know

A comprehensive guide to budgeting for unexpected wedding expenses and vendor tipping etiquette

Planning a wedding involves more than just the big-ticket items like venue, catering, and photography. Smart couples prepare for the hidden costs that can quickly derail even the most carefully planned wedding budget. Understanding vendor tipping etiquette and preparing for incidental expenses can mean the difference between a stress-free celebration and a financial nightmare.

Wedding Vendor Tipping: What You Need to Know

The Tipping Controversy Explained

Wedding vendor tipping remains one of the most debated topics in wedding planning. While not always mandatory, understanding when and how much to tip can prevent awkward situations and ensure exceptional service on your special day.

The Golden Rule of Wedding Tips

Tip based on performance, not obligation. If you notice a vendor going above and beyond their contracted services, a tip is appropriate. However, on your wedding day, you'll likely be too caught up in the celebration to notice these details—and that's exactly how it should be!

Key Questions to Ask Your Vendors

Before signing any contract, ask these crucial questions:

  • "Do you expect gratuities, and if so, what percentage?"

  • "Are tips already included in your pricing?"

  • "Can we include expected tips in the contract upfront?"

Remember: It's never rude to ask clarifying questions. Wedding planning isn't an everyday experience, and vendors understand you're learning as you go.

Industries Where Tipping is Expected

If your vendor typically receives tips in their regular business operations, they likely expect them at weddings too:

  • Hair and makeup artists

  • Bartenders and servers

  • Transportation providers

  • Delivery personnel

  • Musicians and DJs

Pro Tip: Plan Tips in Advance

Include expected gratuities in your wedding budget and contracts. This transparency prevents last-minute financial stress and ensures everyone knows what to expect.

Wedding Incidentals: Preparing for the Unexpected

The Reality of Wedding Day Surprises

Even the most meticulously planned weddings encounter unexpected expenses. From wilted flowers to clothing mishaps, these incidentals can quickly add up if you're not prepared.

Essential Incidental Budget Guidelines

Budget 10-20% of your total wedding cost for incidentals. For couples on tight budgets, aim for at least $300-$800 in readily available cash for emergency expenses.

Common Wedding Day Incidentals

Vendor-Related Surprises

  • Replacement flowers (more common than you'd think)

  • Additional venue time and associated staff overtime

  • Extra equipment rentals

  • Assistant fees not mentioned in original quotes (a great question to ask ahead of time!)

  • Disposal or cleanup fees

Guest-Related Expenses

  • Uninvited guests who didn't RSVP but show up anyway

  • Additional meals and place settings

  • Extra beverages when calculations fall short

Weather and Emergency Costs

  • Sunscreen and bug spray

  • Umbrellas for unexpected rain

  • Tent rentals for outdoor ceremonies

  • Emergency clothing items

Timeline Overruns

When your celebration runs long, expect additional charges for:

  • Venue overtime fees

  • Staff overtime (servers, bartenders, cleanup crew)

  • DJ/band extended time

  • Photographer overtime

  • Rental equipment extensions

Preventing Common Incidental Expenses

Smart RSVP Management

  • Create clear invitation deadlines and follow up with non-responders

  • Budget for 10% additional guests beyond your RSVP count

  • Add known "surprise attendees" to your guest list proactively

Vendor Communication Strategies

  • Ask explicitly about extra costs during contract negotiations

  • Request itemized quotes that include all potential fees

  • Brief your day-of coordinator about budget limits and timeline expectations

Flower and Décor Preparation

  • Order from reputable florists with backup plans

  • For DIY flowers: Allow 2 days for fresh flowers, 3 months for artificial

  • Set completion deadlines 30 days before your wedding

  • Have your coordinator approve all vendor deliveries

Weather Contingency Planning

  • Check seasonal weather patterns for your wedding date

  • Prepare emergency kits with sunscreen, bug spray, and umbrellas

  • Consider tent rentals for spring and fall outdoor events

Wedding Party Preparedness

Create detailed checklists for all wedding party members, including:

  • Complete outfit requirements

  • Shoe specifications (most commonly forgotten item for men)

  • Accessory essentials

  • Emergency contact information

The Financial Safety Net Strategy

Cash Management Tips

  • Keep incidental funds in cash for quick access

  • Designate a trusted person to handle emergency purchases

  • Create a priority list of what deserves immediate attention

Contract Protection

  • Read every vendor contract thoroughly

  • Ask about overtime policies and additional fees

  • Include tip expectations in written agreements

  • Establish clear timelines and penalties for overruns

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Corri Lewis

Corri has been planning weddings and events for over 3 decades and has authored 4 books (keep an eye open for book #5!) She loves everything about weddings--and, as her husband says, 'can squeeze a dollar out of every nickel'! She is a DIY'er at heart, and loves to create beauty on a budget!

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